01-01-2011 Who Would have thought!

The first day of the year, its every procrastinators dreaded day… the day that forever is coined, oh I’ll start that in the New year, well ladies and gents it is the New year, what are you going to “try” and start only to realize a month later you have forgotten to do it, only to repeat the cycle year after year. I don’t believe in yearly resolutions, I do believe in the daily realization of things that need to be changed and suree….. once a year you can dig deep to set a an outline for what you would like to discover, change, improve and conquer in the new year. But everyone should focus on the daily adventures to try and improve themselves. Like for 2011, I would love to learn Arabic, go to aesthetics school,to cherish a picture everyday(don’t worry I’ll share) and continue to becoming the women that I am suppose to be. Now see that isn’t to hard, I am not sitting here planning to rule the world or become the first woman president(Ironically those are kind of the same ;)). I am just setting myself up to accomplish things I need/want to accomplish in the next year. I could be like oh i want to lose 50 lbs, get a man worth marrying …blah blah blah but I don’t need a new year for that…i can do that when ever I want… don’t feel bad if you make up new years resolutions I won’t judge. But answering me this, why would set yourself up for failure like that in the beginning of a new year….shouldn’t you be more open to evaluating the things that happened last year and figure ways to change them? ok maybe I am judging a little.
What are your goals for the new year, dont worry I wont hold you to them!

01-01-11 picture of the day is me and my grandmother, it is amazing how much this woman has endured to be with us today, 1930, the most amazing woman look how good she looks!

When the road to home is covered with bushes..

You know when life gives you hurdles you are to get over them, well what if you don’t know how?

Wanting a guy to notice you with out being “that” girl
Things to consider is what you think when you see someone, what gets your attention negative and positive. You need to take how you want to be seen, and act it out by seeing other people!

In Life
Your goal is to leave a positive impression on this person. The best way is to smile, let him see who you are. Stand with good posture and have good eye contact. These things are going to show that you are confident and that is exactly what every woman wants a man to take from it. Don’t ever be afraid to go after what you want, worse case scenario is that you realize it may not be something you want after all.

At Work
Dress to impress, put together vs. bed hair, positive verse negative. Do your job you know your going to get more positive attention if your doing what you are suppose to be doing and doing it well. Ask for input without seeming stupid, it is a fine line for sure, but think about it if you ask for to check something he can check to see how awesome you are or he can teach you a new thing..it is a win win. Be a happy person, combat the normal work breeding grounds for angry feeling by being a source of cheer. (With being the happy person though comes some things to watch out for people will like you and gossip with you so try and stay Switzerland). Interact when appropriate this will show your knowledge and have him see you as person

At the bar or gym
SMILE 😀 It tells a guy what kind of a person you are with out having to say a thing, this is a way to say your open with out the fear of getting rejected. It is not a need for a ear to ear smile, just a small coy smile that says I am here. After a smile it is about eye contact with out being creepy!
Be sure that his attention is what you want. Don’t try to get a guy to look your way, you want attention and you want to feel good about yourself.But don’t be loud he is going to think your weird and not approachable! Being yourself is good but don’t do something crazy to get his attention! You don’t want to lead someone on like a puppy taken out for a walk. You could end up in a very awkward or uncomfortable situation.

Remember it is about you liking someone enough to want their attention, this doesn’t mean you get to lose yourself in the process.Be yourself. Everyone probably says this, but it’s true. No guy wants a girl that pretends like she is something she is not. Show him that you are a good friend. Listen to the music he listens to. Just don’t come on too clingy. No boy wants a girl who just follows him around all day. In addition, if you want to find out more about him, don’t stalk the poor guy. Just find out about him from his friends you trust. For example, ask them about his likes and dislikes, what music he is into, what concerts he goes to, if he likes anyone, etc. Be confident in yourself, and it will show that you are an amazing person. Don’t be someone you’re not. You want him to like you for you.


Once You Get the attention…..now what

Hang out with him often but not too often ; you don’t always want to be hanging around because you might look like an annoying bug that’s always around and never goes away. Try to start a conversation about an interesting topic, for example, if you’re at a football game, ask confidently but cutely, “Did I miss any action?”. This will tell him that you want to know about the game, but also you want to get his opinion, so he will automatically talk to you about the game (or other topics) the whole game. Start slowly like a movie or party try not to make it so noticeable cause he might not be interested.
FLIRTTTTT 🙂 best part of courting~! Do it as much as you want, but remember that too much flirting especially with other guys will likely get him to take notice, but perhaps not in a good way. Don’t do too much, but not too little either. Sometimes you might look too girlie, popular, wanna-be etc. If he reacts and you don’t think its real, he’s just doing it because you’re there and you’re a girl and he thinks he can do better, but let him know he can’t. If he is faking it, call his bluff and say something that makes him know you don’t think he is ‘all that’. For example, if he comes close, pull a face and offer him gum. This will unbalance his ego.
Start up conversations that have to do with if it’s where you are or if he’s talking to you. Make sure you don’t go on about nothing. Definitely make sense when you talk to him. Don’t twirl your hair, flick your eyelashes or giggle nonstop. He can get kind of scared and make fun of you, no matter how old you are, guys will always be the same. Be yourself. Just be who you are, that’s the #1 quality guys look for in a girl.

The Perspective Life

Life throws the most awful of turns to really make a person evaluate themselves and things in their lives. In times of hardship there are 3 things a person wants, other than being alone, one is a boy to snuggle with and know that he really cares about whats going on because he truly cares about you, two going out with your girl friends to distract the be-jesus out of you, and third your family to settle you.

Well when your family is equally sharing in the events and your girl friends either are MIA or have done all they can do, the last thing to turn to is a boy. Now, I am a very independent girl and never have nor never will be solely dependent on a man in her life to feel worth. But at times like this I would love for there to be that one guy that will let you put your head on his shoulder while he plays with your hair and will let you cry, talk or do nothing until you feel better. There is that light at the end of the tunnel when you get just the inkling that the guy you chat it up with actually cares(random things that show it isn’t a one sided friendship, which sometimes I wonder about this certain person). These are the times when I wish for a main squeeze ;), like when you need someone who truly whole heartily cares and would do anything with you just to be with you. No distance is to far and nothing is to much of a hurdle to figure out. But, other times it is not needed, like I am not one of those girls who needs a guy with her all the time, I like to be able to have them around sometimes, I dont like anyone to stress about when they are going to hang out. I think it all should come naturally*. *Now naturally only occurs once you have branded yourself with that title.

That gets me to my next random thought of the day, random to you yes to me no, I was watching TV and it sparked thought. If your hanging out with a guy who has been a friend but you want more. WAIT for the guy to make the move. Girls have an easier time forgiving if a guy tries more than friends and misses the boat the girl is floating on. But guys, oh gosh guys dont know how to handle themselves if a girl acts out to be more than friends and it isnt mutual.

Oh random…who the heck drives around with their cat in the car? I totally saw that today I was like WTF mate.

PET PEEVE of the day: Dont initiate conversation via anything and than quit out with out saying something to signify you are not going to respond anymore, especially if the conversation was meaningful.

Quote of the day:
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. ~Kahlil Gibran