You are in a serious committed relationship for 2+ years(this is important because of the “1 year itch”)
Been together for 1-2 years, with talks of Marriage
Been together for 1-2 years, without talks of marriage, or living together
0-12 months in the fun stages and just learning about each other
0-12 months and have talked about everything including love, future and life.
Depending on what scenario you find yourself, it gives different ways of handling the long distance. Those in scenario 1 are more likely to have a hard time than those is other scenarios, the way I see it, you squeaked by on the 1 year itch, for those of you who don’t know, the 1 year itch is where some relationships fail, about 1 year if they feel suffocated or have become to much into the relationship and lost touch with not relationship stuff.
If you compare scenario 5 and 1, the likelihood of success lies in scenario 5. Think of it this way, in scenario 5 you haven’t gone through enough of a routine to feel empty with them being gone, instead you get to still have your single-hood(when I say single, I most certainly do not mean being with other lovers, I mean working on yourself as a person, you can’t be a good pair if you are not a good individual) whilst working on the most important part of a relationship, communications. Because in scenario 5 you still have the infatuation with the concept of future with out the possibility of boring day to day issues. Doing LDR after realizing you are with your soul mate, you have the chance to fall in love with their mind and communication. Because when your looks go, and things become old, all you have left is the way you communicate. It is said that people rush into marriage, doing LDR is away to avoid that. I believe being successful in a LDR is being independent, understanding, descriptive, faithful, open, trustworthy, and a little dorky. I’ll go into the dorkiness a little later(it helps with showing how you think of them and that you are thinking of them)
Bottom line, if you want it, it will work. You just have to be truthful and upfront with what you want exactly both in your heart and to your love. No sugar coating, no hoping you will feel different later on. Worst feeling from LDR’s can be the feeling of wasted time, or feeling like you were a holding space until something better came along. In the end, love never fails.
cheers and happy loving
Bottom line if you have a challenge or a hurdle… ASK FOR HELP…. your friends, your TRUE friends will help you. You do not need to worry about being judged because those who love you will not and those who judge you, don’t matter.
The littlest change can throw anyone off, it doesn’t mean that you are forever altered, it just throws a wrench in the day or event sildentadal.com. Like not getting your usual coffee, or not get the phone call you are use to. To bigger changes of not having a person around when you need them most. It is how a person deals with them that makes them strong. So weather you have a moment change of a trafficy day to not having someone in your life…. what you do with it defines you, not the lack of them or things.
Easier said than done most of the time right? If you have a passion for something even the littlest thing can make you feel crazy. Any where from a simple image not turning out the way you wanted it to, to the god awful words of “we need to talk” and not having the time to talk after. But honestly in situations like this I tell myself, things that are meant to work will work out….if it isn’t then its only a matter of time… But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t fight for what you want most! So instead of worrying, figure it out and figure out what you should do next that makes you the most happy. You should after all be making yourself the happiest you can be. Worrying about the little things are not going to be best achieving that….think that way!!!